If you are constantly focusing on the external world, be prepared to feel constantly drained.

Your energy is sacred, and it's limited. Think of your energy like a battery—made up of mind, body, and spirit. All three need to be protected and nourished in order for you to show up as your best self.

But if you’re like most women navigating modern life, your mind is likely where most of your energy is being used up. Especially if you're overthinking, emotionally overloaded, or constantly comparing yourself to others.

The truth is, your energy is consumed the more you focus on things outside of your control. The more you try to manage, fix, or react to the external world, the less power you have to pour into your internal world—where true peace and clarity live.

Let’s talk about six common energy-wasting habits and how you can shift them.

When you’re in your head all day, replaying conversations, planning for every possible outcome, or doubting every decision, you're not living—you're spiraling.

Why it drains you:Your nervous system stays in a constant state of alert, which is mentally and physically exhausting.

Shift it:

• Practice journaling to clear mental clutter.
• Try a simple grounding mantra: "I don’t have to have all the answers right now."
• Replace over-analysis with presence by focusing on what you can actually control.

Scrolling social media, judging your journey against someone else's curated highlight reel—we all do it. But it steals your joy and blurs your path.

Why it drains you:It disconnects you from your own timeline and creates emotional unrest.

Shift it:

• Unfollow or mute accounts that trigger insecurity.
• Start your day with gratitude for your current season.
• Remind yourself: "Her success doesn’t threaten mine."

Emotions are natural, but when you suppress them or let them explode without processing, they can consume your energy and leave you feeling disconnected.

Why it drains you: Unprocessed emotions linger in the body and mind, causing tension and mental fog.

Shift it:

• Make space to feel your emotions: journal, cry, talk it out, or move your body.
• Practice breathwork or EFT tapping to calm emotional surges.
• Replace emotional suppression with emotional literacy.

Always saying yes? Avoiding conflict at the expense of your own peace? This one runs deep for many women.

Why it drains you:You're constantly abandoning yourself to gain approval, which leads to resentment and burnout.

Shift it:

• Start small: say no to one thing this week that doesn’t feel aligned.
• Practice using phrases like: "Let me think about that and get back to you."
• Affirm: "I honor myself when I set boundaries."

When you’re always plugged in—scrolling, watching, listening, absorbing—you don’t give your mind time to rest.

Why it drains you: You’re not creating space for your own thoughts, clarity, or creativity.

Shift it:

• Set screen time limits or designated "phone-free" hours.
• Replace passive scrolling with stillness: a walk, a bath, or simply being.
• Remember: Silence is where your inner wisdom speaks.

Micromanaging your schedule, relationships, or outcomes only feeds anxiety and tension.

Why it drains you:Control is an illusion. The more you grasp, the more resistance you create.

Shift it:

• Practice surrender through prayer, meditation, or simply releasing what you can’t control.
• Repeat: "I choose peace over perfection."
• Create structure, but allow space for flexibility and flow.

Choose One Habit to Work On: Which one resonates most? Start there. You don’t need to do it all at once.

Track Your Energy Daily: Use a simple note in your phone to check in with your mind, body, and spirit.

Create a Micro Ritual: One 5-minute habit a day to support your shift. Breathwork, journaling, stretching, stepping outside.

Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge your small wins. You don’t need perfection—you need presence.

Protecting your energy is an act of self-love. And when you stop leaking energy into habits that don’t serve you, you make space for clarity, peace, and growth. One gentle shift at a time, you step into the woman you’re becoming—centered, soft, and fully in your power.